Is Living Happily Ever After as a Couple a Fantasy?
Beware of people who tell you that a lot of your beliefs are fantasies? In fact, you should be suspicious of people who easily dismiss whatever it is you believe as some sort of fantasy or wishful thinking.
I’m not saying that those people are dangerous, delusional, or demented. I’m not saying that there’s something incredibly wrong with them. What they’re doing is that they’re giving you an opinion that has to come from somewhere.
Let me tell you, nine times out of ten, it doesn’t come from an even-handed or fair-minded and balanced view of your situation. In fact, it comes from the precise opposite.
In most cases, they are reading their personal frustrations or fantasies and aspirations into your life. This is not fair to you, but it benefits them a lot.
You have to understand that at the end of the day, life boils down to perception. Somebody can be given a glass that is filled half-way. People can always say that it’s half empty. Other people can say that it’s half full. At the end of the day, the opinion doesn’t really matter as much as what people do with that opinion.
I can tell you that the person who looks at the glass as half full is probably going to look at his/her situation as a series of opportunities. Now, when they take advantage of these opportunities, things might not pan out, but they are so optimistic that sooner or later, something sticks.
It’s kind of like throwing spaghetti at the wall. Nine times out of ten, the pasta is just going to bounce off. Either it’s going to bounce or it’s going to slip off, but the more you do it, the better you’ll get at it. Sooner or later, something will stick.
It all boils down to whether you’re going to continue to throw spaghetti at the wall because there will come a time where it may seem pointless or it may seem that you have better things to do. The same applies to your life.
It boils down to your attitude. That’s why you should steer clear of people who would say that a lot of what you believe is a fantasy or you’re just engaged in hopeful thinking. They’re just projecting their reality onto you.
You don’t have to accept it. You don’t have to believe it. At the end of the day, it really boils down to a battle of beliefs. Do you think that your life is just a series of failures leading nowhere? Well, what will happen if you believe that?
That’s right. You will make certain decisions that will ensure that your life does turn out that way. There is such a thing as a self-fulfilling prophecy. On the other hand, if you refuse that kind of judgement and you come up with a different perspective, your life may well turn out differently.
You have to understand that each and every person’s life is not a foregone conclusion. There’s always a tremendous amount of choices packed within each person’s life. It really boils down to whether people are ready, willing, and eager to take control of their ability to control their assumptions.
That’s the bottom line. The moment you pick your assumption, you control your assumption. Be mindful of this. Be purposeful. Setup an overarching goal or an ideal for yourself.
Otherwise, you’re just going to be chasing your tail throughout your life. That’s not exactly a recipe for success or happiness. It’s definitely not going to put you on a one way street to contentment. Far from it.